Skin Care From Yours Truly.
Hey y’all! It’s spring time and along with changing weather and wardrobes, every gal’s vanity could use a refreshing as well! Like I have said in another post, skin and face care have always been super important to me especially since I have had every face ailment known to man. Puberty was a muuuuhhhh and along with living in New Orleans for most of my life, the humid springs/summers did nothing for my acne-prone skin. Prescriptions were too strong, and skin care for .. ahem, others never did it for me either lol. So with this whole wave of holistic health for your skin, I was excited to try something different for my face, and boy did it work! Now I know everyone has different skin-types but here are a few tips that have been literally my saving grace! Hope y’all enjoy!
Washes: With having combination skin, I am constantly having to rotate how and how often I wash my face. Some weeks I’ll have to exfoliate, other’s a simple bar of soap works for the kid. So on oily days I would suggest an exfoliation treatment. My favorite is a basic honey+sugar+olive oil combo. Honey is a natural humectant so it’ll retain the essential moisture you’ll need. The sugar will gently buff away dead skin cells and any dirt/residue from the day. The olive oil helps with moisture but it’s also extremely healing and helps with general skin elasticity so it’s amazing for that youthful glow. This scrub is also really good to use in the shower all over to help your entire body feel awll silky & smooth. Sidenote : If you want to get exxxxxxxxtra fancy with your routine, manuka honey contains antioxidants and will help with breakouts or blackheads, it’s a tad pricey but it’s SO worth it. That’ll take your exfoliating game to the next level. & is also great to use a lip scrub.
Toning: I’ll be honest, I never really got the point of toners. My dermatologist swore that it was the end all be all to my skin care woes, and so I stocked up… partly because he was fine so I listened to everything he told me to do! LOL but the idea of toners closing your pores after cleansing was awesome, plus my skin always felt really good after I used it. But in the spirit hollisticity (that’s not a word y’all) Rose water is an excellent alternative. My momma put me on & I’ve loved it ever since. Very light and smells amazing. Plus, on dry skin days, it’s not as harsh as other chemical toners especially since it doesn’t have salicylic acid. Toners are amazing for getting that gritty stuff your cleanser leaves behind. Besides Rose Water, Clean & Clear’s essential deep cleansing toner is a great alternative for bad break out days.
Masques/Deep Cleaning: I hate blackheads, but I LOVE getting rid of them. The feeling of your skin once you get in them pores honey is unlike any other. I am the queen of looking up DIY face masks but my ALL time favorite is a bentonite clay. It’s versatility has to be why I love it so much: You can cut it with water for your weekly deep clean, or use honey when your skin is feeling super dry. You can use apple cider vinegar if you’re having bad breakouts or to get those stubborn blackheads. It’s so WONDERFUL and it contains minerals that DRAW OUT dirt and you can literally feel your skin pulsate and clearly I love this because I rave about it to errrr’body I know. So go ‘head and cop that, any clay mask will do really but that’s probably my go-to when it comes to deep cleansing. So after your wash, steam your face (sit in a hot bath to open pores OR just place your head over a pot of water with a towel over it) and apply the mask right after. You can can also use the bentonite clay mask on your body and is perfect for homemade pedicures after long days at work.
Moisturizing/Night oils: Now when it comes to moisturizing, I’m not playing around. I’m gonna be up 10-15 minutes longer than I intend to at night massaging all my oils into my face and body because that’s the most important part of my skin care routine. My favorite moisturizer is my Acure Argan oil, which I wrote about before but my next favorite is Castor oil and my third choice is coconut oil. I know, it all sounds pretty greasy but trust me, if you really tryna “wake up like this” & have bae all impressed (says the most single gal ever), use these oils! Not only do they leave you glowing, the literal improvement in skin texture is the most amazing part of it all. Silky smooth ain’t the word, plus you won’t wake up ashy so who can complain about that? I usually use castor oil more in the winter because it’s thicker and a little goes a long way (cold pressed organic is the best for skin, Jamaican black castor oil is great for your hair & edges for styling). Coconut oil is more of my go-to in the morning because it’s very light and argan oil is great for the summer because it’s lighter and penetrates to the second layer of your skin pulling oxygen to your cells. Argan oil is also great for blackheads too because it’ll draw healthy blood to your pores, killing the bacteria and soothes out your skin texture even more.
On days when my skin is dry or really irritated, I try to simplify, I’ll use a soap to wash and keep the argan oil and leave it at that. My favorite soap to use is olive oil soap just because it’ll give me that moisture that I love, but it also leave your skin feeling extremely clean. I have the brand “Kiss my Face” from whole foods & it’s amazing. But before that I used a vegetable soap from Trader Joes, both were about $3. The point being is that there are times when you’re actually doing TOO much to your skin and I learned this the hard way, I would say just minimize make up usage, wash twice daily with a soap and use a light oil or night cream to moisturize.
ALSO: VITAMIN E OIL IS YOUR BEST FRIEND, COP & THANK ME LATER.just use in place of argan oil or any of the other oils named above.
Hope this helps y’all! Any other questions or SUGGESTIONS (which we love) are welcome, just hit up our asks or tweet us dolls!
H, xo.
Google defines Luxury as “the stateof great comfort and extravagant living.” Y’all know.. Luxe. Opulence. Decadence. Dripping. Lavish-ery. Life style goals. ~Aesthetics~ & all that jazz. We’re so well versed in the art of luxury. Every musician, rapper, entrepreneur and your local Instagram homie/honey can all tell you what to need to have a luxurious life and the way this nation’s culture is set up … that’s all a part of the American Dream, to have more than the next person and honestly, I’m not knocking it. It’s all facts. This world has become extremely materialistic. Everything is a stunt, and while y’all figuring out different ways to “shit on niggas/bitches” the world’s splendors are passing you by. I’m not here to manage what y’all do with your money but I’ve always thought luxury was something more than the plush rugs, mink furs and golds all in your watch. Luxury is time, it’s a commodity unlike any other. Luxury is a beautifully underrated concept and with its twisted definition in today’s world … It’s hard to see outside that limited box. It’s not only time it’s a beautiful emotional release. It is moments, in all of their elegance. A luxurious moment to me is evenings spent with my family, laughing and reminiscing about good times. Quiet moments with God. It’s top-down weather. Off-days from work and school. Its intimate moments with friends. Secrets whispered in the wee hours of the morning. Adventures. Child-like moments. A good cup of coffee. Wind in your fucking hair. Something that makes you feel alive. The type of shit that gets your blood rushing and forcing that pulse to beat. So much more than just a lifestyle (word to Young Thug). Luxury to me, is freedom. Freedom from the confines of society, expectations and responsibilities if only for a miniscule moment (because that’s how long good things seem to last nowadays anyway). The word deserves a redefinition and reconfiguration. It desires to be modified and made modest. It yearns for simplicity, humility that is like the whispers of lullabies in the middle of July … Happiness. Bliss. Lifted weight. It is to be imprudently in love with your life. That’s the lap of luxury to me.
H, xo.
poetry x horoscopes.
Aries — ripping off the band-aid, waking through a forest, being center stage, police sirens, fingernails tapping against a desk, boiling water, a sunflower field.Taurus — chocolate melting, the ticking sound of a clock, blanket forts, sliding across a wooden floor in your socks, using sticks as swords, sunsets from the hood of a car.Gemini —the scent that follows after you blow out a candle, how handwriting is like a voice, your first visit to a haunted house, a rigid spine, the sound of crunching leaves, church bells.Cancer —holding hands in a hospital, lemonade on the hottest day of the year, a psychic’s parlor, sage & lavender & vanilla, hot air balloon ride over the city, windmills.Leo — city life at night, an acid trip, paint splattered at the wall, bubblegum, a one-way ticket, broken mirrors.Virgo —fireflies in the summer, back of the class, pacing & the click clack of high heels, bleach, waves crashing, sun kissed skin.Libra —when the couple says “i do”, lucky charms, bonfires, finger painting, blowing kisses, ballet shows, sugar on the tip of your tongue, outstretched palms in the wrong direction.Scorpio —being stuck at the top of a ferris wheel, wind in your hair during a midnight car ride at 100 mph, skin on skin, magnets on the refrigerator, a ceiling fan in the dead of night, sticky notes, foxes in the bushes.Sagittarius — jet lag, a wolf howling, bad puns, five star restaurants, burning your tongue, chipped nail polish, walking barefoot through the mud, treehouses.Capricorn — a loaded gun, the first snow fall of the year when everything is still and silent, the first breath after a panic attack, sun showers, the dreamy state when you’re running on no sleep, candyland, breaking through the surface.Aquarius — cracking open a fortune cookie, city lights in the rain, scissors & wrapping paper, bats in caves, sneaking out for the first time, watching the sunrise with your best friends, a wildflower breaking through the cracks of a sidewalk.Pisces — a canoe on the lake at dawn, windchimes, spring, hundred year old trees, jazz music & feather boas, dream journals, glitter eyeshadow, art museums.— feeling association with the signs, a.l. — (via wildfairys)
We’re constantly bombarded with words daily, things that are said in passing, in texts and between lovers. some words pass as music, most are just white noise but often we come across things that are poetry- that spark directly in the soul. Now y’all know I love me some horoscopes, I’m quick with the compatibility and birth charts, but I have yet to see anything like the list above. I haven’t stopped reading it since I saw it and when I did, I didn’t stop to think of those I have met throughout my life or potential partner, I instantly thought of the women in my life that have raised me, those who made me a better me, and those who helped me throughout all my difficult times. When I think of my mother, I think chocolate and childhood dreams, just like it reads for Taurus’, and when I think of my grandmother, I see so much of her in me so it’s only natural she represents visceral & the most lively thrills as it says for us Scorpio women. I read the Aquarius description and think about the wild adventures my sister and I have had growing up literally adjunct to one another our entire lives and the daises we used to pick in our youth. When I think of my best friend, I think of her reckless belief in love, naturally as any Libra and the times we used to sneak chocolates during family gatherings. This list isn’t just about your sign but how the writer puts into words, at least to me, so eloquently representing the abundance of feminine energy in my life that I am so blessed to be spoiled with every day of my life. To say this touched a nerve is an understatement. Hopefully y’all feel it the way I did and can go to those women in your life and appreciate them in their simplest most wondrous forms the way this had me.
H, xo.
“If I ain’t jones-ing for him, what i’ma do with him?”
To say the word love is over-saturated would be an understatement. I can’t speak on other’s emotions but there is something about the use of the word that no longer holds its clout. Older generations and our own can admit there is a level of insincerity when it comes to connections. People are together mostly because of an image or comfort. Both are sins of either overindulgence or a lack of motivation and that’s just crazy to me. When you grow up thinking that love is equated to Religion, that it’s something that fancies and is up to par with the unwavering consistency and steadfastness that most religions preach to you, and you see it disintegrating under the guise of #WCW’s & Shout outs and faux “Relationship Goal” (when it’s just a picture of two people holding hands).. you get a society that lusts after an image and not only the baseness of a fairy tale, but a chronic emptiness when Love is the complete opposite. Love is mysterious. It’s magical. It’s a filling agent, it is never meant to take anything away. Love is constant, in that it’s always moving. Upward. Above and beyond, stretching and expansive. Love is the most human & humane thing you can do. It’s about Tuesday afternoons and Friday night fun. Love is including another person into your thoughts, your heart and your being. Love is divine in that you have a choice to be alone. To be all by yourself and bask in the beautiful grandeur that is loving yourself, but you’ve chosen another to share all that you’ve built within you. What could be better? What’s the rush y’all? Where is the time, that old-school courting, that reeling from a phone call and learning their fears, and goals and asking the tough questions. Pushing each other beyond the borders. Beyond where you thought you could go mentally, spiritually, emotionally. Boundaries becoming obsolete as time goes on. It’s more than your favorite kind of shoe, or your hobbies. You gotta dig deeper. I will never forget one of the more recent conversation’s with my father when he was explaining why he will always love and be with my mother: He said that he is impressed and inspired by her. The fact that she wakes up daily to send my little sister off to school, be an amazing wife to him, deals with each of us as her children separately , has an unbreakable bond with each of us, cooks a meal every night, works and still manages to have a smile on her face and be so full of love. He said that how she does it all with always draw him to her and that her mystery is why she is his wife. (ew, parent’s being sappy) But that premise is what I’m here for. Constantly learning and figuring out your partner is the beauty of it all, learning yourself and growing alongside another person who loves you is the greatest gift. It’s gotta be.
H, xo.
Jazmine Sullivan’s presence in the music industry cannot be limited to just one venue. Dabbling in Reggae, Pop and dominating R&B, her edgy and sultry voice is unforgettable, to say the least. So when she announced her music hiatus via twitter, all of her fans were disappointed but it was understandable. She told herself she would take a step back from music when it stopped being fun & we totally understand so what did we do in the meantime? Put it on a beat of course! “Smoking Gun” featuring Magnolia Shorty (r.i.p) is every New Orleans’ gals favorite song to dip to & with Jazmine’s vocals, it makes for the perfect bounce song, lol!
It’s been about 3 years since Jaz has been on the scene so when news broke that she’s working on a new album, we were more than ecstatic for one of our favorite songstresses to be back doing what she does best. Be on the look our for her new music here on the blog and everywhere else, because I know the second she drops something, we’ll be all over it like yeah!
Hoda, xo.
Jesse Boykins III -- A coffee talk feature.
“Ya hotter than a New York summer in a Spike Lee movie…”
R&B for me has been a genre that I have loved and built upon since my youth but music nowadays has locked love that away for me. With artists like Frank Ocean and The Weeknd making their way onto the scene a couple years ago, what was considered R&B for me changed. I’ve always been into alternative music that kind of breaks outside of our traditional genre’s sort of like what the aforementioned artists have created, but y’all.. lawd.. Jesse Boykins III has switched it up for me completely.
With his soulful and serene voice, coming in with powerful and well-timed, immaculately formed runs that just about take his already amazing lyrics to an entire ‘nother level.. It’s a wonder why I haven’t stumbled on to his work earlier in life. This Brooklyn based brother, hailing from from the Chi has been creating EP’s since way back in ‘08. The Beauty Created,my favorite to be exact consist of cult favs like “Amorous” and “Come to My Room” - which shows his first trip and nomination at the 2010 Soul Train Awards He has also covered “Prototype” by the great Andre 3000 and turned it into a mini-movie which you can watch (and fall in love with) here.
Jesse’s music sets the tone for this trippy-dippy yet soulful listening experience that I have yet to see, especially as of late. With his influences listed from men such as D’Angelo & Maxwell (two of my favorite R&B artists, ever), it’s a no brain-er that he’s been on heavy, heavy rotation. There’s something about the vibe of his music that takes me somewhere; somewhere that burns incense, and has me feelin’ like I should be rockin’ waist-beads and anklet’s and have my hair picked out while dancing in the meadows — and I mean this in the sincerest way possible— his music is truly, hauntingly and deeply beautiful. Timeless, is the best way to describe the feel created from him and his all black band of brothas, it’s no secret that this man has soul but he demonstrates, so skillfully you would think it’s effortless, how the music he creates permeates the shell of how R&B is culturally considered and creates it’s own lane, without ever straying too far from it’s true home.
On my favorite song, “Come to my Room”, we hear an innocent plea of Jesse coaxing his will-be suitor to simply, come to his room. The grounded sense of his lyrics will have you thinking it’s an easy going kind of song till you catch a moment, where you gotta run it back like “oh shit, this dude is smoothhhhhh.” And that is what I love most about Boykins, you get these easy going tracks with what seem to be elementary musings of love, till he bellows a, “You willl seeeeee, lyingggggg nexttttttttttttt to meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee ohhhhhhhhh!” and you’re left floored. Breathless. Astounded.
Look, I may have gotten a little excited in this post, but I’m telling you, Jesse Boykins is a name you’ll want to remember and these albums will be played for a very long time, some of these tracks have even made my infamous “Wedding Songs” playlist, next to hits by Marvin Gaye, Sam Cooke and Stevie Wonder. So, with all of that being said, Jesse Boykins’ career seems to be booming and I am glad to see the recognition he is getting is more than well deserved. Keep an eye out for his Love Apparatus LP which is set to drop some time this year. There’s nothing that touches the soul and helps maintain balance than some damn good R&B song. Nothing like it and Jesse Boykins’ love movement is making sure we don’t miss a beat — Literally.
xo,
Hoda.
Track his success here:
writing is not a luxury.
Reading essay’s in Audre Lorde’s Sister Outsider - “Poetry is not a Luxury”, where she emphasizes how poetry becomes the voice where women, black women in particular are able to fully contextualize their experience of life without the words of other races or genders (namely white male writes) had me thinking about a lot of things lately. As a black woman who runs a blog with my cousin and writing my own material in my free time, I wonder a lot about my voice. Where it comes from? What does my writing add to the conversation that my fellow sisters and brother’s are writing about in the blog-o-sphere? What do I, a 21 years old college student have to say about my world and how I see it?
Everyone is entitled to an opinion especially in the age where all you need is a smart phone and an outlet, having a voice isn’t the most difficult thing to obtain, but what I worry about is the intent of these voices and what inspires them. I didn’t even know, until recently, about the copious amount of blogs out there dedicated to the black voice and our black experiences. I love it all! The natural hair blogs, the blogs who specialize in talking about relationships in the African American community, blogs dedicated to music in our community, the movies, television shows — the list is endless but something I want to reaffirm here on coffee talk is not only my purpose as co-owner of this multifaceted and ever-developing outlet, but my purpose as a black, Muslim, woman, writer.
I feel as though I have been a part of this dialogue, be it in my highly biased classroom environment or within my own peers, about the role of race and gender in the artistic and expressive space. Some may disagree with me and that’s perfectly fine, but I am here to say that there is no way to subtract the core of your existence, especially as a black woman writer in your art. What Sister Lorde is tackling in her works and the above essay particularly touches on that, even in it’s title stating boldly that poetry is not a luxury and I wholeheartedly agree. I’ve taken just about every Brit Lit class there is to take and all Romantic writers agree that poetry is about the spontaneous flow of emotions and though it may be, I believe that not only poetry but all literary works, even a blog, have a much higher calling than just the pleasurable spewing of emotions. Poetry is the documentation of the life and it’s participants. I don’t believe writing is a passive form of expression alone. It is concrete and complex and it is active and participating in the dialogue that is life.
With the passing of one of my favorite writers last week, the late Great Amiri Barka, may he rest in peace; I wonder greatly now more than ever about my purpose as a writer and what my message is. Remembering his play The Dutchman, which is an immensely dense, compacted two act play with only two characters, but speaks volumes on race, racism, jazz, slavery and even sexism — I am drawn to why I decided to write in the first place and it was not because I had nothing better to do. I decided to write because like Audre Lorde’s brevity, I am called to be brave in who I am, where I came from and my pure pumping black heart with all of it’s stories and tales. Lifetimes have lived behind my eyes so I don’t write to pass the time, I write to live. I write not for a luxury but because my situations and how I see the world is important because of who I am as a black Muslim woman writer. That voice, not only from me but for so many others like me, with my skin color, my curly hair, my wide hips and full lips, my attitude and corn bred fed body, are needed desperately and consistenly for the discourse of life.
with love,
Hoda. xo.
Now you caught my heart for the evening
kiss my cheek, moved in - you confuse things
should i just sit out or come harder?
help me find my way.
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The affinity I have for this songs runs so deep; Tribe Called Quest here on their main single from their fifth & final album The Love Movement, “Find A Way” has always been associated with the essence that is The Tribe for me. From the smooth jazz undertones to the heavy “boom-boom-kat” of the bass & the female vocals to mellow out the tone of the chorus, we not only get a song that sounds aesthetically pleasing but these lyrics? C’mon! It’s classic “is she the one, or am I caught in the matrix” — a man’s insecurity about where he is to go with the object of his affections, the crossroads that I think just about anyone can relate to & who wouldn’t love a good “Martin” reference? With lines like “should I just sit out or come harder/help me find my way” we see a speaker anguished by his inability to go in for the kill and looking for a sign from her. Whew! This song here! “Find a Way” always finds its way (hehe) into my headphones every Fall/Winter & I just stumbled on it this year and my sentiments remain unchanged — head bobbin, rappin along & proceeding to bump the entire “Love Movement” album. I hope y’all vibe as heavy as I do to this song.
xo, Hoda.
love letter to the men who couldn't get her —
hey you, yes you. remember me? the girl who kept you up so late at night probably because all of your phone calls were made so late at night. yes, me the one who came and brought you food and gifts to your house, came saw you when you were sick? remember her? The one who listened to you gripe and complain about your ex, telling me she was crazy and how she had an attitude problem and how you like me so much because i’m so different. yes me, i’m writing you to tell you that our waters were troubled before we stepped in, in case you didn’t know. she would call and text you and you would swear that it’s nothing and that you’re in the situation with me to grow. those waters that left me high and dry many a nights, debating if i should call to question your whereabouts, did I even have that right? better yet, did i even stand a chance? because the second she came around, it’s like i was tossed out. made no sense to me, i was raised to be strong, resilient and to never take no shit from anyone, especially not no man, but i somehow ended up being the seat-filler for your past. and no don’t try and give me that “you get what you allow” bullshit because when you fall in love, you don’t ask for it. you don’t ask to be treated as a second-rate lover when all the while you were number one in my life. this wasn’t a love of permission, nope. i cared so much that i ended up getting hurt. all the soft shit aside, was it because she screamed at you louder than i? or maybe it’s because she was hitting your phone up non stop? and i beg the question, how in the world did her birthday end up as the password to your phone while i’m laying next to you? how did you end up at her family gathering and i’m waiting for a call? too many questions, i’ll let this all simmer. just take a deep breath, understand that i don’t regret a thing because i loved you fully and deeply, and here i am, woman enough to admit you are a fuck up. i didn’t stand a chance huh? i bet. i thought love was supposed to ignite carnal instincts in people, the hunt. supposed to make you want one person and when you find them that’s it. why didn’t you just choose her? better yet, why the fuck did you choose me while you still loved her? sorry, i know i promised no more questions but did you think that just because i laughed at all your jokes i wouldn’t wise up to your immature ass methodologically way of loving someone? i finally did.
with love,
Hoda xo.
As y’all may know, from one of my previous posts, I am a huge fan of Alicia Keys’ single ‘Fire We Make’ featuring the sexy Maxwell. It is only right that we feature the video on our blog, for not only the song, but also for it taking place in our city, New Orleans. This video is soulful, old school, seductive, and so Nola babaaay. It will have you knee deep in your feelings. Nothing like an artist delivering a video that does a song justice by exceeding your expectations. I can’t explain how much I love these two! So much beautifulness in one video laaawd! This is the perfect intro for summer! Whats better than love in New Orleans right?!
“… an amazing time to be in New Orleans; the heat, the French Quarter, and him.. and we fell in love.”
Enjoy,
Yas, xo.
Bey wants me to what?
I remember loving Beyonce when I was just a child, rushing home to listen to Dangerously In Love and I was set, just like every other girl in middle school, on becoming a singer. I sang, danced, pranced, and lived for every track. I would even force my pops to listen to her song entitled “daddy” where she paid a soulful homage to the number one man in her life, her father. So there’s no question about me being a fan. Beyonce’s music for lack of better words moves me. I love her energy, her commitment as an artist, her honesty as a woman, and her down-home roots — but something about this “Bow Down” track does not sit well with me. Don’t think I, or anyone else for that matter, has ever questioned Bey’s role in the entertainment industry, her prowess has been unmatched. There has never been a moment when we saw her as Jay’s “little wife”. To go from an album like 4 to this.. is just confusing, Bey. We love you, but we have questions honey. A lot of them.
Hoda, xo.
coffee talk: What is thirst? →
Alright, it’s about time we got real here in the blogger-sphere and confronted this word that has aggravated me to no ends and it’s the word : THIRST!
Let me start off by apologizing on behalf of my fellow women who have fallen into the grips of society, my brothers, sorry that we have fallen…
coffee talk: a little love. →
“Self-Love” is a term I’ve seen tossed around so much lately and I have seen how it transforms lives but what does it mean to love yourself, besides looking in the mirror and feelin’ yoself because you’re having a good hair day? Self love is different for everyone but for me, I learned best what…
Black History Month 2013
For the past couple weeks I’ve contemplated writing a Black History Month post, and well, here I am to deliver. As y’all may know, black history is a subject matter that is not only dear to us but also causes a positive rise out of us. Despite being honored during the shortest month of the year, it is forever embedded in us. We find it important, that we not only continue to revive ourselves on this subject of black history, but also enlighten others.
My personal drive came from the urge to know about my history and the people who paved a way for me. As a Muslim, I’ve learned that the history of my people lies deeper than my skin. It is estimated that 10 to 15 percent of the slaves brought to the New World were Muslim. It was also my hometown, New Orleans, and my father who introduced me to the beauty of African American culture. I loved the people, who lived to tell old stories, the jazz music, and the artists. However, moving from New Orleans to Maine, was a challenge on how I viewed myself as a African American female. It was hard transitioning from a state of diversity to relocating to a place where I was one of few minorities. I spent many years tip-toeing around white people to avoid being labeled the stereotypical black woman. Till this day, I receive the same reaction when I speak my mind like they expect me to be incoherent. It was a while before I could fully grasp that I was often silently discriminated towards. To me it was just quite ironic that people of the north, who proudly flaunted their history of fighting for the rights of African Americans’, were the ones still engaging in prejudice acts. I learned that the institutions of the region many people described as having “the best schools”, taught me nearly nothing about the history of my people that helped mold this country. If I left it to the education system to know about black history, all I would know about would be the surface facts about Martin Luther King Jr and Rosa Parks.
As a young teenager, I realized I could do either two things: continue to feel devalued by white people and ignore my worth and potential or embrace who I was and represent it proudly. So I took the initiative to educate myself. Everything I gained knowledge on further interested me to research. Every time I researched I was introduced to these astonishing historical figures that I fell in love with. In middle school, I joined the Civil Rights Team and that’s when I became aware that my purpose had something to do with uplifting people in the black community. It gave me hope to know that I could make a difference like my precedents Ethel L. Payne, Alice Dunbar-Nelson, or even Ida Bell Wells-Barnett.
Today, my sentiments on this subject, remains that black history should be honored regularly. It should be apart of American history and be instilled in our youth. The fact that it isn’t, proves undoubtedly, that we still haven’t reached equality among whites. Some might argue that Obama as President is a stepping stone, which is, but the question is will our children fathom the significance? They need to be taught every part of their history, including the uncomfortable facts, not to just appreciate how far we have come but to be inspired to continue rising above. We, as African Americans, are the only ones capable of reshaping how we are perceived, by making changes amongst ourselves. That doesn’t necessarily mean that people must protest and be aggressive. Not everyone’s purpose is the same but we should at least embrace who we are and where we come from. Here, on our blog, one of our objectives is to support and promote fellow African American writers, poets, musicians, blogs, designers, and so on. Furthermore we will recommend books to read or movies and documentaries to watch. Does that mean that we are discriminating? No, we just stand firm in uplifting the African American community in any way that we can.