“If I ain’t jones-ing for him, what i’ma do with him?”
To say the word love is over-saturated would be an understatement. I can’t speak on other’s emotions but there is something about the use of the word that no longer holds its clout. Older generations and our own can admit there is a level of insincerity when it comes to connections. People are together mostly because of an image or comfort. Both are sins of either overindulgence or a lack of motivation and that’s just crazy to me. When you grow up thinking that love is equated to Religion, that it’s something that fancies and is up to par with the unwavering consistency and steadfastness that most religions preach to you, and you see it disintegrating under the guise of #WCW’s & Shout outs and faux “Relationship Goal” (when it’s just a picture of two people holding hands).. you get a society that lusts after an image and not only the baseness of a fairy tale, but a chronic emptiness when Love is the complete opposite. Love is mysterious. It’s magical. It’s a filling agent, it is never meant to take anything away. Love is constant, in that it’s always moving. Upward. Above and beyond, stretching and expansive. Love is the most human & humane thing you can do. It’s about Tuesday afternoons and Friday night fun. Love is including another person into your thoughts, your heart and your being. Love is divine in that you have a choice to be alone. To be all by yourself and bask in the beautiful grandeur that is loving yourself, but you’ve chosen another to share all that you’ve built within you. What could be better? What’s the rush y’all? Where is the time, that old-school courting, that reeling from a phone call and learning their fears, and goals and asking the tough questions. Pushing each other beyond the borders. Beyond where you thought you could go mentally, spiritually, emotionally. Boundaries becoming obsolete as time goes on. It’s more than your favorite kind of shoe, or your hobbies. You gotta dig deeper. I will never forget one of the more recent conversation’s with my father when he was explaining why he will always love and be with my mother: He said that he is impressed and inspired by her. The fact that she wakes up daily to send my little sister off to school, be an amazing wife to him, deals with each of us as her children separately , has an unbreakable bond with each of us, cooks a meal every night, works and still manages to have a smile on her face and be so full of love. He said that how she does it all with always draw him to her and that her mystery is why she is his wife. (ew, parent’s being sappy) But that premise is what I’m here for. Constantly learning and figuring out your partner is the beauty of it all, learning yourself and growing alongside another person who loves you is the greatest gift. It’s gotta be.
H, xo.